I wish I can re-live my school days or some special momment.Immediately for a few seconds ,our facial expression changes as if we are really there .We experience the joy ,but invariably , it ends in a bit of pain .Pain knowing that the momment is no longer yours .Most of the time , through each stage of life .There are some people whom we hate .We say." i hope that brat gets what he deserves .He did such a terrible thing . I shall never forgive him ".
Some of us dont stop there ."Hope some one does something even worse to him .He/she will get hit by a lorry and die ",curses are endless.Irony is ,invariably there is nothing dramatic that happens to the cursed(i hope so , incase i am in this list) .
When we ask ourselves , the names of our greatest friends .Images of close friend and family flash in our mind and incase we ask the same about emenies .Chances are that this list is twice as big.
And unfortunately , we know remembering has side effects.Each time you remember ,you not only remmember the person, but his/her deeds as well .The mind reminds, just how you were victimised, how you felt pain ,sorrow and we feel the pain as if it has just happened .Then we say it again . I will never forgive him.Dont talk about that guy.
Our enemy caused pain ONCE.But we RE-LIVE the pain a million times and giving oursleves pain a million times.By not forgiving , we our giving ourselves ,nill chance of forgetting past nightmares.
To forgive , helps the person who forgives more than the person being forgiven .By forgiving , we are giving us a chance of forgetting .
Besides everyone deserves a second chance (even me ).
3 comments:
Fantastic blog ... I completely agree ... Of course, this "change" happened in me very recently ...
I was reading "The Last Lecture" by Randy Pausch [Fantastic book! u shud read it]. He says a couple of things:
1. People are not inherently bad. So when someone does not respond to your good gesture, its alright. Just give them time and they will come around
2. There is absolutely no point thinking what others are thinking about you for there is NO WAY u can know that. So better, you do what your heart tells you to do and leave the rest to the others!
yes .... although hard ..worth it
I think the way we act is with the intelligence that we have at that particular instant. But we all change.. our ideas change.. So when we look back, we can never tell if it was right or wrong. We can never blame or be proud of our decisions..
So what we need to realize is everybody is like that. They act according to their prejudice, and view at that point of time in their life. May be, given the same situation they might respond differently now. And so might you...
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